Follow LarikaMallier on Twitter Random Party: March 2010

..Yet I know that the goal is to keep me from falling.

[Someone sent me a message, and it made much sense. Clichéd? Maybe! But, it did nonetheless. This, however, is my adapted version of it.]


As we grow up, we learn that even that one person who was not supposed to ever let you down, probably will.
But, we're human. It's OK! It doesn't mean they love you any less and that they aren't extremely sorry.
You'll have your heart broken and you'll break others' too.
You'll fight with your best friend or maybe even fall in love with them.
And you'll cry, because you feel like time's moving too fast and you can't keep up. 
That's OK too. I don't believe we're supposed to keep up all the time anyway.
So, take many photos.
Laugh a lot!
Forgive freely and 'completely'. Completely, I think is important.
Love like you have never been hurt, is a statement that, I know, is much easier said than done. But at least be open to trusting people to love you like they would never hurt you.
Life comes with no guarantees, no time-outs and no second chances. 
Actually, no. 
It does come with second chances. 
Sometimes. 
But don't push your luck.
You just have to live life to the fullest. (Clichéd again! But, true!)
Tell people what they mean to you.
Speak out.
Make a difference. Anyhow, anywhere, to anyone.
Dance, in the pouring rain. Or just dance!
Sing, off tune or in, out loud.
Hold hands.
HUG!
Just be there.
Stay up late. Sleep in late. (while you're young and still living that unstructured life, at least!)
Fall asleep watching the sun come up or listening to your favourite music.
Smile when you wake up to a dead cell-phone/I-pod.
Smile until your face hurts. 
Smile for no reason.
Don't be afraid to take chances or fall in love.
And most of all, live in the moment. It's what you've got, for certain.
They say don't waste time being angry or upset because its time that could be spent being happy.
I say, feel that anger and upset! Let it consume you for a minute.
Then, let it go.
It makes happy, happier.

Got what I need.

When the world gets to me, be it with work, expectations or not being able to be where I want to be, with the people I love and miss, it's so easy to feel like it couldn't get worse.
And how wrong I am to feel that, because it could. 
It could get so much worse. 
And it could get so much worse, because it's so close to being the best!

In fact I got to thinking, I'm one of the luckiest people alive. 
We're all one of the luckiest people alive, simply because we're just that. 
Alive.

We get to feel frustrated just so that someone or something can ease that frustration.
We get to cry just so that someone or something can come along to make us laugh again.
We get to feel alone so that we value family and real friendship.
We get to feel incompetent to be able to enjoy finally being good at, or getting something right.

When I'm down and feeling defeated, music is the easiest and most efficient pick me up I know of.
Well, music AND lyrics. It is, for so many of us.
The soul shifting genius that spells from these two things when put together in just the right mix by some crafty artist is the stuff I envy them for.
And, I think the Rolling Stones put it so well!

"You can't always get what you want.
But if you try sometimes,
you might find,
You get what you need."

I don't know who this chick is, but I like some of the covers she does. 

♫♪ ♪♫♫♪♫

"So you think you can dance?"


"JUST DANCE!"


"'Cause if you get the choice to sit it out or dance... 
I hope you dance."

Strange love.

Why/How do we fall for strangers?
People we know nothing about, barely talk to and probably only connect with through a look across a room.
What is it about another person, you haven't had the chance to discover, that is so extremely attractive.
I suppose this has remained an unanswered, or unsatisfactorily answered question for the longest time. But, I'm asking again. I know people have speculated with many theories about vibes and such... honestly, I don't understand all of that. I get it, vaguely. Just don't 'understand' it! (Yes, there IS a difference.)
And, what do you do about it when every thought you have is about what this person is really like to hang out with or spend time with, what this person really likes, what you'd have to do to get this person considerably angry, would they be the first to try and resolve a fight?. But of course you're too afraid to bare all, and wear your heart on your sleeve and tell them you want to get to know them better, because that would mean risking downright rejection or worse- total embarrassment! Even harder to handle if this person exists in your life only in a working or studying environment.
Society doesn't help with its (sometimes) close-minded, highly judgmental and conclusive nature.
For instance, the campus my college is located in doesn't even allow a mixed group of girls and guys to sit and enjoy a break in the campus canteen without creating some kind of objecting stand which involves the likes of confiscating ID cards and (go figure!) cell phones!?  I don't know what exactly their problem is. Maybe just the fact that they don't know any women who want to chill with them! Poor guys. Boo hoo.
But, society and it's weird ways (that can sometimes, as much as I try to avoid it, anger the hell out of me) is topic enough for a whole other post.
Getting back to what this was actually about, I'd be very interested to find out how many people I know actually believe in the concept of love at first sight. I'm quite sure I don't.
But, then again, there are other inexplicable feelings at first sight that are in need of definition. Or are we better off they remain undefined? *thoughtful hmmm.*
At least what we do have is the excitement in enjoying things like stolen glances and shy smiles that don't necessarily mean anything or have the possibility of meaning a whole lot more than we even imagine. All that coupled, of course, with the frustration of not knowing anything for certain and hoping that at least the opposite party would be braver than you and moved enough to take a risk.
But that's hoping for a lot. :)

PS- If you happen to be curious family or friends reading this, don't ask questions. It's just thinking in text. Thank you! I love you all!:) 

Oh What a woman!


Billy Joel said it with "She's always a woman
Jason Mraz sang it with "A beautiful mess
Shaggy makes you want to dance to it with "Strength of a woman
And Mr. Harry Belafonte was probably the first to catch on with "Man smart, Woman smarter"

You've gotta love being a lady when you see so many men so royally confused! :)
Men have no idea what we're about and they love it!
Why wouldn't they? WE love it!
Oscar Wilde (one man got it right!) said, 
Women are meant to be loved, not understood.
Damn straight! :)
It's what keeps things interesting...
Impulsive living.
Contradictions. 
Irrational emotion.
Giggling.
Chocolate.
Love, like only a woman can.
More giggling!
The strength to tear apart and gentleness to piece back together.

It's a beautiful thing! 
Men, don't be afraid. A woman may be a lot to handle, but she'll make it worth it.
Women, YOU KNOW IT!
I feel like ending this Women's Day rant with our undisputed anthem, Cyndi Lauper style!
"Girls just want to have fun"! (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x0cJnVeiMrw)



Disney Love!



Holi Hai!


I just spent over an hour in my beloved, thankfully well equipped bathroom scrubbing off some tough colour and smiling to myself about how ridiculously fun some strange things can be!
Quite recently, a couple of friends and I were asked about the significance of the festival of Holi. 
I'm not afraid to be honest here. We hadn't the slightest idea!
All we could say for sure, was that we ran after each other caking ourselves with layers of different colours, all the while splashing water around the place until we looked satisfactorily unfamiliar- and had a bloody good time doing it.
As I pondered over this senseless fun we love so much, what made it all the more interesting is that we didn't even know the history behind our bizarre actions!
It is almost like we didn't really need a good reason to act crazy, just as long as we're all in it together!
This is so true! (with everything!)

So, what IS Holi?
There are a number of legends that talk about how Holi originated and came to be part of the Indian culture.One of the more famous explanations of the festival comes from Vaishnava Theology (or Vaishnavism- a tradition of Hinduism, distinguished from other schools by its worship of Vishnu.) In this legend, Hiranyakashipu, the king of demons was granted a boon by Brahma (the Hindu God of creation), for his long penance which made it impossible for him to be killed. In time he grew more arrogant about his invincibility and insisted that he be worshiped instead of other Gods. However, Hiranyakaship's son, Prahlada, was a devotee of Lord Vishnu (the supreme God in the Vaishnavite tradition of Hinduism). This angered the demon king and he made many attempts to kill his own son. Lord Vishnu protected Prahlada and did not let him die. Then, in a final attempt, Hiranyakaship ordered his sister, the demon Holika who was immune to fire, to enter a furnace with Prahlada where he would burn to death. 
Once again Vishnu came to Prahlada's rescue and Holika succumbed to the flames. There are two ends that I've read about, to this particular story. One is that before she died, Holika begged for forgiveness and Prahlada promised that she would be remember once a year, thus creating the festival of Holi. The other explanation is that Holi is the festival which celebrates the fall of Holika and thus good triumphing over evil.

A different version...
IVrindavan (where Lord Krishna, a deity worshiped across many traditions in Hinduism in a variety of perspectives, spent most of his childhood) and Mathura (his birthplace), the festival is celebrated for a whole of 16days culminating in the celebration of Rangapanchmi which they say is to commemorate the divine love of Radha for Krishna. Radha was one of the Gopis (cow herding girls famous for their unconditional devotion to Krishna) who held a place of particularly high reverence and importance in a number of religious traditions. Legend has it that Krishna complained to his mother about his dark skin complexion in contrast to Radha's fair skin. His mother decided to apply colour to Radha's face. These celebrations took place to usher in spring, the celebrated season of love.

Those are some of the stories about how this colourful festival, loved by so many, really began. It is believed to be the festival of radiance (Teja) in the universe. Different waves of radiance traverse the universe creating colours that nourish and complement the function of respective elements in the atmosphere. 
Holi, the way we see it, leaving aside all the philosophical stuff, like a friend of mine said, is about camaraderie, colour and some riotous fun!
Be it orginally a celebration of good over evil,  love or forgiveness; It is a mad, raw celebration of this technicoloured, beautiful life!
Happy Holi!